juliaschade

[The Husky @Mr_Husky1]

Unconditional love is for children.

Not for romantic relationships.

Adult love has conditions, and that's not a bad thing. It's what makes healthy relationships possible.

Love without respect becomes resentment.

Love without trust becomes anxiety.

Love without loyalty becomes insecurity.

Love without effort becomes one-sided.

A partner is not your parent. They are not obligated to tolerate dishonesty, disrespect, neglect, betrayal, or constant selfishness in the name of "unconditional love."

Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, loyalty, communication, and consistent effort from both people.

The strongest relationships aren't unconditional.

They're built on two people continuously meeting the conditions that make love worth keeping.

And respect is one of the most important conditions of all.

[𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐘 @X_Bill_Gl]

Once a trauma therapist said something that stopped me cold:

"People-pleasing isn't kindness. It's a child negotiating for safety in an adult body."

Here are 7 ways she said this old survival deal still runs your life: 1/10

[𝐁𝐈𝐋𝐋𝐘 @X_Bill_Gl]

Literally my therapist asked me a question that ruined me for 3 days:

"If your inner voice was a person, would you let them babysit your kid?"

I sat there.
Frozen.
Because I knew the answer.

Then she said something I'll carry forever: 1/13

[🔮✨ @TheOracleReadsU]

Some of you don't realize how much of your personality can disappear when you don’t feel emotionally safe around someone. You become quieter. More careful with your words. Less playful, less willing to be seen. Some connections expand you. Others teach you to disappear.

[Mr. Nobody @MmisterNobody]

Congratulations, you live in the era where food is both too expensive to buy and too suspicious to eat.

Comedy gold.

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

I’m in love with this sentence:

“Bigger dreams call for healthier habits and healthier habits require more self discipline.”

[Tim Denning @Tim_Denning]

Marcus Aurelius nailed it. The moment you are disturbed by insult or pleased by praise, you are still a slave.

[Simon Maechling @simonmaechling]

We defeated diseases so successfully that people forgot how terrifying the diseases were.

Now they’re more frightened of the vaccines.

That’s an extraordinary failure of memory.

[Lammy @Lammyisback]

Can someone explain why ADHD gives us the emotional wisdom of an ancient philosopher for other people's problems, but the organizational skills of a raccoon in a dumpster for our own chores?

The math is not mathing.

[COCO @TWOTIMESABITCH]

i heard someone say “the disrespect at the end was louder than any good memory we ever had, and that’s when i knew i was done” ifelt that in my bones.

[juliaschade @jules_schade]

@wxcrum Where is your local Publix? Hopefully far away from me in North Carolina!

[yimika. @yimikaaaa]

stop mentioning people from your past in any of your current conversations. it gives them power and presence. cut that cord.

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

“In the short term, you are as good as your intensity.

In the long term, you are only as good as your consistency.”

— Shane Parrish

[ADHD Designer 🟣👩🏻‍💻 @ADHDdesigner]

This is huge for ADHD. Forget about that shame you have for not going to the gym consistently as much as you forget to text your friends back. Just go and pretend it’s a brand new thing you’re doing, without the baggage.

[NOBUNAGA🇯🇵🏯_夏樹蒼依 @japan_nobunaga]

The obsession with 'becoming somebody' is a sickness sold to you by people who profit from your discontent.

A flower in the woods does not bloom to prove a point to the meadow. It simply opens because it has stored enough light.

You do not need to justify your existence. Being here is already the answer.

[NOBUNAGA🇯🇵🏯_夏樹蒼依 @japan_nobunaga]

Not knowing what you want in life is not a lack of passion.

It happens when you spend twenty years choosing the correct answer instead of the true one.

Your desires didn't die. The muscle just atrophied from disuse.

[Autistic x ADHD.Co @autisticadhdco]

Nobody told me that ADHD makes planning addictive and doing optional