Julia Spanos

[Dr. Bryan Pearlman #MaslowBeforeBloom @DrP_Principal]

What Is A Ruckus?
My secretary called and said there was a ruckus in the front hallway. I was really excited to see what was going on. I wanted to know what a ruckus was. I learned that a ruckus was a small boy I hadn’t net yet. The ruckus was ripping our bulletin board off the wall, knocking over a table and cursing.

He turned around & said, “What the F--- are you looking at?” He continued, “You’re fat, bald, and stupid.” I responded with, “You seem to be upset. What do you need? How can I help?” He moved a step closer to me and said, “Are you deaf, too? I just said you’re fat, bald, and stupid.”

My response was, “I heard you just fine. Now I really can tell you are upset. What do you need? How can I help you?” He started crying while re-stating for the 3rd time (in case I missed the other two times), “You’re fat, bald, and stupid.” He then said, “I hate this stupid school; I don’t know why I’m here. I don’t know where my mom is. I hate my foster family.“

He reached his arms out. I asked if he needed a hug and he nodded. I then asked if he wanted to go to my office. He nodded. I let him know that “Dr. P” is here if he needs anything. He sat at my table and put his head down.

He looked me in the eyes and said, “Dr. P, I’m very sorry for everything that I did. I just miss my mom.” I responded by telling him that I appreciate his apology and that I accept it. He then said, “I am also really sorry for calling you those mean things. I didn’t mean it.”

We brainstormed some ideas of what he could do in the future if he was having a tough day. He suggested that he could ask to get a drink, ask for help, or just put his head down. I let him know that these are great strategies. I added that he could always ask to see the counselor or me.

We then discussed how he could be on the lookout for signs that he was getting upset, frustrated, angry, or agitated. He said that he sometimes started to clinch his fists and his breathing changed. I told him that those were good signs and that the body often gives us signs that we are starting to get upset. We both agreed that it was so important to listen to our bodies.

He asked if he could get his backpack and coat. I thought that was an unusual request for 10 a.m. I asked him why he would need his backpack and coat. He replied, “Because I’m going to get suspended like I did at my last school.” I let him know that there may be another plan. He scrunched his face and looked puzzled.

I asked, “How do you think you could fix what you did this morning?” He thought about it for a minute or so and responded with, “I can pick-up what I threw and fix anything that I broke.” I let him know that this seemed like a good plan. He picked up the items that he threw and helped put the bulletin board back on the wall.

I went over the plan for the next time and we made sure he knew what to do in case he got upset, frustrated, angry or agitated again. I said, “Since we’ve agreed on the plan, let’s shake on it to make it official.” He reached out his hand and shook mine. I let him know that he could go back to class. He picked up his bookbag and his jacket and started off to his class. I called his teacher to let him know that he was on his way. His teacher was so happy to welcome him back to class. I never had another problem with him.

A teacher stopped by later that day. She couldn’t understand why he wasn’t suspended. “He called you fat, bald, and stupid.” My response was that it never was about me. I then asked the teacher if any of the comments were false. She looked at me like I was crazy. I let her know that I am fat and bald. Those were both true statements. I also argued that stupid is a relative term. She didn’t like my answer.

How do you deal with colleagues who are fixed mindset, focused on punitive methods or who believe that alternatives to suspensions equate to being soft on discipline?

From the book “Maslow Before Bloom: Basic Human Needs Before Academics”
(https://t.co/IsFQnYpsnh)

[Dr. Bryan Pearlman #MaslowBeforeBloom @DrP_Principal]

#maslowbeforebloom

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@EdKrassen Pete Buttegieg

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@ReallyAmerican1 @mmpadellan 💙

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@nathaliejacoby1 CNAs

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@kebzach @ALionEye They get permission from the organization and give them a donation. They weren’t impersonating them. They’ve done this with different organizations for 20 years.

[Marius Hauken @mhauken]

You're not using the Notes app on your iPhone to its full potential.

8 features you might not know about:

[Victoria Brownworth @VABVOX]

No one is grooming your kids to identify as another gender.
No one is grooming your kids to be gay or lesbian.
86% of K-8 teachers are women.
They are not grooming your kids to be anything but proficient in basic reading, writing and math.
The GOP is lying to you. Again.

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@Spankssz These are beautiful!

[Lee Ann Jung, PhD @leeannjung]

Students who have IEPs are not "special education students." They are just students. They belong to every teacher they have. Receiving a service doesn't change a students identity as a student. #LeadInclusion #EdChat #UDL #Inclusion

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@nathaliejacoby1 Scared

[Dan Wuori @DanWuori]

Parents: If your child DOESN’T periodically come home from preschool with stained clothing (from paint, markers, playground dirt), you should really find them a better preschool. Don’t get mad. Just dress accordingly.

[Tansu Yegen @TansuYegen]

When 2 groups of penguins meet on the road, they stop for a short exchange of information. When one of them moves in with the wrong group, a friend goes after him to bring him back🙂🐧🐧🐧

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@WhiteHouse Pro-life!

[Joe Sanfelippo @Joe_Sanfelippo]

LEADERS!!! Be PRESENT in the UNSCHEDULED MOMENTS because the UNSCHEDULED MOMENTS are where they find the most JOY…and we deserve to remember that too.
#LeadFromWhereYouAre
#HackingLeadership
#1minwalk2work

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@Spankssz There is no time for that 😂

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@RpsAgainstTrump Donald jr

[Julia Spanos @julia_spanos]

@DaynaECopeland This is Ernie. He wishes he could meet you!!

[Margaret E Atwood @MargaretAtwood]

My goodness, some of you are good at misreading! To be clear: when HandmaidsTale came out in 85, there was disbelief. I thought a religious-right takeover was possible in the US, and was Crazy Margaret. Premature, but unfortunately too close. That doesn’t make me happy.