How to be an emotionally safe person: Be curious. Encourage honesty and hard conversations instead of avoiding. Validate. Make others feel heard. Be nonjudgmental. Give space to be imperfect. Be consistent and dependable. Own when your actions caused hurt. Support without fixing.
I love Jupiter in Leo because we are more easily rewarded with optimism and luck when we explore our confidence / talents / self expression
And a lot of us have lost our spark
I am excited for us to get it back as we embody life as a celebration and personal victory
Please INVEST IN YOUR LOOKS, get the facial, buy these shoes, the jewelry, get your hair and nails done. You look better, you feel better, you do better, people treat you better, life gets better.
True alchemists know you just gotta lean into your inner chaos in order to conjure something new. This is why people stuck in chronic avoidance also suffer for prolonged periods. There is no reward for avoiding yourself.
A rule that will lower your anxiety:
Don't replay conversations you can't change, and don't pre-live ones that haven't happened. Focus on the next right action. Most stress comes from living everywhere except the present.
friends to lovers is highkey the healthiest and most romantic trope. to know that someone has loved you platonically before they did romantically is just
painful truth: u MUST develop a strong opinion of yourself, because if u don't, somebody else will do it for u. and trust me... some ppl will reduce your entire existence to their mood, their jealousy, their insecurity, or one mistake u made three years ago. don't let strangers become the author of your identity. damn...jeeezzz .
I respect you so much for waking up this conversation. A lot of friendships are hostile and competitive because there is this need for a friend with a little bit more experience to look down and consistently lecture their other friend just for existing and experiencing life in-
Go look at how the ppl who are loved right are being loved. Let it disturb you a little & let it make you uncomfortable with what you’ve been accepting. Watch how they’re not sitting analysing responses trying to decode if they like them or not bc the answer was never ambiguous.
Date someone who is curious about you. Not someone who simply finds you attractive or entertaining, but someone who wants to know the person behind the surface. Someone who reads every message twice, remembers the stories you almost forgot to tell, and notices the little things no one else does. Someone who wants to know where your scars came from, what shaped you, what makes you laugh, and what keeps you awake at night. Attraction may draw someone in, but genuine interest is what makes them stay. Find someone who wants to learn every layer of who you are.
Free advice from an expensive psychologist:
If you are an anxious person, do everything for fun.
Go to a job interview for fun.
Submit documents for fun.
Start a blog for fun.
Anxiety feeds on importance.
Don't turn everything into a matter of life or death.
Hard Pill to swallow as an adult:
At some point, you will have to disappoint others to live a life that's honest to you.
People pleasing will drain you, not save you.
You have every right to set boundaries and choose your peace. You can disappoint people and still be a good person.