This is one thing I appreciate my dad for.
He fought hard. Very very hard to break this cycle.
His own father disowned him for converting to Christianity.
The man literally said "I do not have a son called Lati again" (Lateef was his muslim name).
His name was not in the list of kids when his dad's lineage was printed in the funeral book.
In fact, my dad didn't know for almost a year that his dad had died.
Same with his mum. Didn't know for about 3 months.
But that man labored to let us know that we were loved.
He said "I love you a lot", but more importantly, he prayed.
Oh God, that man prayed.
I have a prayer book in my office, in it is a transcription of the prayer he wrote for me when I was 1 year old.
He said, I don't have a lot of money to give you as inheritance, but what I have, I will do it to the uttermost, and he did it.
That man has read that prayer diligently every day since I was 1 till I was, I think 26.
One of the lines there, was that God will lead me to find the bones of my bones and the flesh of my flesh.
Another one was that God will quicken me with the tongue of the learned, and open my eyes to behold wisdom daily.
Every single thing he prayed for has become a reality in my life, every single one.
I always say it, that if I become half the man he was, I have suceeded.
He was that impactful.
In all honesty, while there are a few things I would have loved him to do more of when I growing up, looking back, it has always been clear that I have been loved at home.
Loudly and lavishly.
Dear men,
If a woman is showing cleavage
If a woman is wearing shorts
If a woman has tattoos
If a woman has makeup on
If a woman has no makeup on
Itโs for her. Itโs because doing those things makes her feel good. It is not to invite crude comments from men who are complete strangers to her. Do better. Be better.
I feel like if women started wearing meta glasses and exposing all the men who sexually harass them on a daily basis, men would shut down the idea of public surveillance down pretty fast
I think meta glasses are an invasion of privacy, but we might as well use them to our advantage
Remember the case a while back of a teenage boy who killed himself after his classmates accused him of rape. Men were frothing calling for the death penalty for the girls, till it turned out he went to a all boys school and they never mentioned the case again.
You pick mes never seize to amaze me
Because what is this
Is it your father ??
Why are you fighting to protect the image of a stranger you do not know????
The Daughter said God forbid and you are angry, are you dumb ???
Are you stupid ???
For a child to say god forbid for their own father you think itโs a joke or childโs play ???
Better mind your business and face your front
Itโs been about 5 days since that video of the South African police torturing and killing a Nigerian got leaked.
The Nigerian president and state has said absolutely nothing.
Times like this makes me miss Obasanjo as a President.
Weakness in Aso rock! Weakness!!?
Until you evolve, unlearn, relearn, and realize that women of this generation will not endure the bad treatments many of your mothers endured in the hands of your fathers, yโall will keep having failed marriages.
@enyinna_ Iโve said it before and Iโll say it again; the average Nigerian is just a politician with less money and power.
Is it people that are raised with such a mentality that will enter positions of power and suddenly change to good people?
Man canโt even do shit for fun nowadays
for those who don't understand igbo, they went to visit their club member whose wife gave birth. they went with groceries, cooked to entertain themselves and still gave a cash gift to the couple. they did not go there and balanced for the new mom to cook for them.
Something funny happened when I was buying plantain at the market just now.
A woman was trying to reverse and one bike man started insulting her, saying stuff like "na woman nau".
The man beside me now said "na woman, na why you suppose dey patient", and then I'm like "woman dey drive pass man sha. No be men dey cause most of these accidents wey dey road?"
Then the woman selling plantain, a middle-aged woman, said "leave them, na so dem go dey talk anyhow. Like say women no dey drive well"
And I said "yes oo, even the first driver in Nigeria was a woman", to which she said "ohooo"๐
She now started saying "na only for this Nigeria wey men dey disrespect women anyhow. Imagine person wey dey drive okada dey insult woman dey dey drive beta car because say she be woman".
She sounded so annoyed by it and the thing struck me that even outside the internet, more women are quite aware and irritated by the misogyny we face from men.
The woman in the car was blissfully oblivious of all this discourse she unknowingly caused but it's just an illustration of how much misogyny women face daily, even when they're just going about their daily activities.
A snake sighting almost anywhere can trigger panic, often fuelled by fear, myths and spiritual beliefs. But these reptiles are so misunderstood.
Despite being called "a witch", herpetologist Taiwo Okikiola continues to use social media to raise awareness about snake conservation.
That thread was necessary, as a girl in her young 20s I'm awakened to the fact that:
1. You can always be more
2. Whatever you pursued for undergraduate doesn't have to necessarily determine your Masters or PhD
3. Black women are more than the eyes meet
4. There's no academic limit, you can keep on going and going and going
So a letter to my 10 years self from now, "represent us well, Ik you can"
On the playground this morning a little girl needed help getting off the playscape. Instead of calling for HER mommy, she just shouted, โI need a mommy!โ
And reader, 4 mommies, including her own, rushed over to help her down.
Seeing this tiny moment of care-by-village restored a little something in me.
@Prince_dc21_ Please don't delete this so even the most desperate women will see the ignorance you are parading as sense and will jump and pass you in their search for a partner. A series of simple Google searches would have avoided this nonsense you call a write-up.๐ ๐