I take pride in my public appearance, always have, always will & I promise you, it has nothing to do with how I’m perceived by white people or the police & I need folks to stop injecting that narrative into every convo we have about raising the social standards amongst ourselves.
I take EVERYTHING as a sign from God in life. Any small inconvenience. Like maybe I didn't need to go to this place, maybe I don't need this person in my life, that job may not be for me, and maybe this is saving me from something only GOD can see. No loses forever lessons.
I work on myself because I understand that I am responsible for where I end up. Not for everything that happened to me, but for every response, every habit, and every decision I made after it. That distinction is everything. Blame is easy. Ownership is what actually changes your life.