for someone who has isolation as their coping mechanism, i hope you find a lover who understands your silence. Life is already hard, be with someone who makes life easier.
If I ever stop talking to you & remove you from my life, I hope you understand how hard that was for me. I have a bad habit of holding onto the little bit of good in people, no matter how bad they clearly are for me. So if I don't fwu anymore it's bc you pushed me past my limits
Niggas want you to prove your worth to them in order for them to treat you right. Worst mindset to have with me cuz im not auditioning for treatment i know i deserve. The minute you pursued me was the minute you knew my worth. Don't play w me.
a man gone be who he is, no matter what you bring to him. you can be beautiful, solid, have your own, carry yourself right… and still end up dealing with somebody who just not built to handle you. you can’t love a man into acting right or upgrade his mindset by being a better woman. so when he fumble you, don’t take that sht personal like you lacking… sometimes that’s just his character showing. the best thing you can do is fall all the way back and let him be exactly who he been. stop chasing, stop trying to prove your worth, stop thinking you can change the outcome. the right one not gone need to be ran down, corrected, or convinced… he gone show up right without all that.
You should never be expected to be the bigger person when you didn't create the discomfort in the first place. Too many people cause the chaos, cross the line, then want you to swallow your feelings just to keep the peace.
Accountability matters. Being mature doesn't mean accepting disrespect or cleaning up messes you didn't make. Sometimes protecting your peace means standing firm and letting folks sit in the consequences of what they caused.
i never want a man to settle for me. go find your dream woman. and if you can’t find her, don’t use me to fill the gap. i need mine clingy, passionate, reassuring, unapproachable, GOD fearing, and locked in on me only.