Nobody talks about what it feels like to slowly get out of survival mode. There’s emotional withdrawals, moments of intense confusion, and so much grief that comes with seeing life as it truly is. Big love to everyone going through this.
some pple are just irreplaceable. The things they do, the kindness they show, the feelings they had for you; you may never experience it again for the rest of your life.
When you commit to a partner, you also commit to their past, their coping mechanisms, and their communicate style. Choose wisely. They will be the greatest impact on your overall mental wellness.
Your developmental age is different than your actual age. Many adults are much younger emotionally, because of this.
Here's how to find out your developmental age:
Ego seeks attachment. Soul seeks connection. A soul-to-soul connection that makes you feel seen, heard, understood, appreciated, supported, and loved is always worth the wait. Never settle.
The more you heal, the less you see attention as affection, attachment as connection, codependency as support, disagreement as an attack, enmeshment as intimacy, lack of boundaries as empathy, external validation as internal self-love, and trauma bonding as healing.
My mom & I just disagreed about something pivotal that happened TO ME 25 years ago
In the story I end up triumphant. We both agree on that.But,how I got there? She had a wholly different version
I said, that’s not what happened!, & suggested we trade stories
I gave my version
a lover that holds space for you but also encourages you to hold space for yourself, a lover that sparks your intentions by holding light to the beautiful things within you that you’ve been dimming, a lover that pours into you without taking from themselves, solid gold.
The story of my student Bo being my barber is an example of the ethics of mutual care/radical reciprocity that underscores the relationship between black faculty & students in PWI spaces. We literally need each other. We have gifts to offer each other, mentorship is reciprocal.
May you manifest someone who loves every single cell of you. The warrior, the gentle, the loving, the sexy, the comfy, the quiet, the talkative, the vulnerable, the bold, the sensitive, the nurturing and the powerful – the absolute whole, wonderful being you are.
I was recently on a flight to Charlotte, and when the flight landed two women, one Black one white, got into an argument after bumping into one another in the aisle. When they got off the plane, the white woman turned to the Black woman, red with anger, and called her the n-word.
L'Erin is a well-traveled American scholar, writer and entrepreneur who has spent years living in different parts of St. Lucia
In this impromptu snippet she describes her favorite part of living in Choiseul