I genuinely donโt understand this idea that a Domme caring about her sub somehow makes her โless dominant.โ
These are HUMAN relationships.
You can have boundaries. You can have rules. You can be strict, demanding, intimidating, soft, nurturing, or somewhere in between, and still genuinely give a damn about the person on the other side of the dynamic.
If your sub is going through something serious, checking on them doesnโt suddenly revoke your Domme card.
Being cruel 24/7 is not a prerequisite for dominance.
Different dynamics work for different people. Some Dommes are incredibly soft with their subs. Others are much harsher. Some switch between both depending on the situation.
There isnโt one personality template every dominant woman has to follow.
Stop policing women because their version of dominance doesnโt look exactly like yours. ๐
Holy shit. I posted about a sub that I genuinely care about undergoing a life changing operation. While the majority of those comments have been very sweet, people chose THAT MOMENT to insert themselves saying that I:
- Don't actually care
- Am not a "real Domme" because I do care
- Am a parasite
If you actually think that being Dominant means you don't care about your subs, or that you have to be mean in order to be Dominant, you genuinely don't know what the fuck you're talking about. Read a fucking book and do some research. Soft Dommes exist. Hard Dommes exist. I fall right in the middle, and that does not make Me any less Dominant.