The remake of #UntilDawn has brought back so many memories of Supermassive Gamesā scenes. I still canāt get over Brenda Songās performance in #TheQuarry šŗš²
My heart goes out to every woman who has come forward about their experiences in FFXIV in the last few days.
Itās alien and absurd to think that some of the things weāve had to deal with for years now has been normalised as ājust dramaā or has been downplayed by people in the raiding scene to the point where heinous shit happens to us and weāre too afraid to mention it because of the backlash weād get from the perpetrators friends and the raiding community as a whole for āstarting stuff.ā
Iāve been sent sexts and dick pics on the day of joining a static MORE THAN ONCE just because Iām a woman.
Iāve been flirted with aggressively during raid time when Iām literally just there to raid, as if itās a dating meetup just because Iām a single woman.
Iāve been kicked from a static before because I turned down another static memberās advances (who happened to be the raid leaders best friend). I was told by that raid leader that I was kicked from the group for āmaking things weirdā by saying no to the guy asking me if I wanted to be his girlfriend.
Iāve been stalked both ingame and IRL by a guy from a static I was in because I didnāt send him nudes when he asked for it.
When I turned down advances from a man in a static that is a STRANGER to me, he then secretly tracked and followed me around ingame on an alt to see who I emoted to and talked to so he could then /tell them lies about how Iām a bitch he had to kick from a static because I was demanding all the loot go to me.
A man from a static I was in harassed me ingame to the extent he was suspended for several days by a GM when I reported it yet he told any mutual friends we had left that it was no big deal and was just a mix up, and they all believed him over me.
One guy in a static I was in would harass me constantly and say the harassment was training for me to become his āyandere wifeā in the future despite me telling him I didnāt want to date him.
In the FIRST EVER static I joined, I was love bombed by a guy in it when he found out I was single until it escalated to the point he mailed me sex toys covered in his own semen for me to āplay withā despite me turning him down and even having him blocked at that point.
Writing this all out you must be thinking āwoah sheās been in a lot of statics for this all to happenā but no, this is across like 6 statics from ARR to ShB.
Over the years I just dealt with this shit, never really saying much about it, not even to my best friends, because I thought it was a one off case or there was something wrong with me because I let those events affect me, but to hear that so many other women have gone through similar things is just so heartbreaking.
When I thought it was just me, somehow I rationalised it as being no big deal when in truth it is. It is a big deal. And its heartbreaking how common is it and how common it is for us women to feel like we canāt say anything.
This is why I donāt try join new statics anymore despite loving to raid hardcore. Iāve been raid leader of my own team for the last two expacs because I feel unsafe if I apply to a strangers team, unsafe that one of these events will happen again and that Iāll be the one kicked and punished for it. Like I canāt trust anyone else to ābe in chargeā of the group because what if they enable this shit yet again.
We donāt just have to worry about whether the team weāre applying to matches what weāre looking for in terms of skill or commitment, we have to worry about SO much more.
To all the people whoāve had to āput upā with these kinds of things, my heart goes out to you truly. You deserve better and I hope the dialogue around this issue in the FFXIV community is something that stays open forever, so it doesnāt take one big event every 5 expansions for us to feel safe to ask for help.
It shouldnāt be regarded as ānothing majorā or ādramaā when a female raider brings up this occurring in the static sheās in to people involved with that static.
YOU deserve better than that.
My whole perspective changed as a Voice Actor a few years ago after realizing that actors get paid more per hour than pretty much everyone on a project. Director's hourly rate is often lower, Casting too, Writers get paid less, Project Managers, Schedulers, & the Audio Engineer gets paid the least per hour despite doing the most tedious work & cleaning up after the actor & director.
So when actors complain about little things like formatting of scripts, time of day, traffic, show up late or show up with ego, decide to be hard to work with or think they know better than the director...think about how that might be received.
I think people assume these roles get paid more, I know I did, because of the influence & power that comes with some of those roles. And yes the rates eventually go up, at least for Directors & Engineers because they get more sessions than actors. But bigger projects don't use the same Director or Engineer for every session either so they may split the work among several.
I know some TV show-runners who got paid less than their actors & cast themselves in their project just to get some decent pay & have some fun. The Show-runner.
Now that our studio is developing a game & has provided full Audio Production for quite a few games & animations, it's even more amazing to me how these things get made at all!
So the LEAST Actors can do is realize it's not about you. You get to show up, have fun, & leave while others clean up your stuff & make something out of it. So show up, be respectful, work hard, & realize your expectations & experience are not the only thing that matters. You're a collaborator, a small part of a whole process that came before you & will continue after you. And that's beautiful, considering how many people don't get to play for a living. Enjoy it.
Moreover, two people who spoke against him in court were discovered to have been paid 10k each to do so, lying under oath. Does this sound like a fair trial to you? Do the right thing. #MarcellusWilliams
@GovParsonMO there is no DNA evidence linking Marcellus Williams to the murder he was accused and convicted of. BOTH prosecution AND the victimās family have asked you to take him off death row. Do the right thing.
@jordanreyn I got great communication. They even held my booth in a warehouse for a month bc I ended up moving the same time it was ready. Definitely need to walk that email back and offer clarification though
@jordanreyn Agree that it was poorly written but I too actually read the email and understood that it was not pro AI. And I also am not one to refute peopleās experiences. I believe them if they felt they got poor customer service. I was a surprised to hear that though bcā¦
@MisterKeyrock @JuneYoon_ I always love the āwalking backā argument as if thatās not how science is supposed to work with a new thing we donāt have all the information for. Team Yoon all the way
A lovely story about Paul Reubens: When I worked at Jimmy Kimmel Live, my friend was in charge of prepping the green room for guests, being on hand in case they needed anything during their visit (food requests, working the TV, etc) and tonight Paul Reubens would be there... š§µ