The real flex is learning to raise your emotional intelligence so toxic people can't play mind games with you, learning to pause before reacting so manipulators can't disrespect you and blame you for your negative reactions, and learning to say "no" so takers can't take from you.
I feel extremely disconnected having conversations with people that don’t ask questions back. A lot of people only know how to talk about themselves and relate back to them, it’s exhausting talking to someone like that