As I grow older, I’m less afraid of being judged. Always be kind, but expect kindness from others, too. Speaking up is an important part of having healthy boundaries. When someone mistreats you or hurts you, you should say so, and also say no to requests when necessary without fear or guilt.
NOTEBOOKS
by Allison Joseph
I crave them as if craving something carnal,
blankness of pages erotic, clean with sensual
possibilities and ready to be dampened
by my insistent ink, swirls of language
made plain on thin blue lines taut
as tightrope. I collect them like other women
collect shoes or boyfriends, fingering pristine
pages while standing hushed in aisles
of bookstores and stationery shops,
stroking plush-covered ones with a single
finger, loving floral-print ones more
than actual flowers, needing another and
another until my house is overrun
with them, and they start arranging
cocktail hours and support groups—
for the ones I have not written in
grow lonely, and the ones managing
the burden of my desperate handwriting
need someone to talk to, peers to confide in
about these dog-eared secrets and semi-scribbled
imaginings, covert half-truths, outright lies.
How they congregate around my bed,
waiting for me to pick one up, start
another hazy page of scrawls and arrows,
cross-outs and restarts, confessions
that will never be confessions until
I judge them fit for judgment. Sometimes
when fate has flattened me with its one
hard fist, only the black-and-white
composition notebooks of childhood
will do, marbled covers unchanged
from when I first learned cursive—
one letter reaching for the next
in the crazy tilting of my untested hand.
Only those wide-ruled lines will do,
those patient beginnings.
Caleb (second-born, son of my heart, voted most likely to become a tavern bard), freshly arrived home, hands me this box.
Caleb: “Here, Mom—this is for you.”
Me, puzzled: “Oh! Uh… thank you.”
Caleb: “I found it at the thrift store. It’s probably for wine or something, but it also looked like it might hold a cursed object or an ancient talisman, so I knew you needed it.”
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