i actually think "surface level" friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride or die. some friends are for the gym. some are for going out. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. those deep convos and connections are for the 2-3 people closest to you
The narrative that feminists inappropriately insert their politics into everything while men mind their business is a lie. Men actually insert their politics & male agendas into jokes, television, literature, children's books & movies, toys, religion, social norms, stereotypes, cultures, traditions, classrooms, the economy, and the entire system of human living. The only difference is that the male has declared himself the voice of objectivity: to challenge man is to challenge all that is life