@SelmaBlair There was nothing I needed to hear more than the words you spoke this evening. I now know it's OK to not be ok but ALSO to set that boundary. Even if you can't do something you love doing.
@mrBobbyBones I think that she is just attempting to explain that communication matters, also the way you communicate matters. If you are courteous about the activity you want to do and not demanding, she will be less likely to be upset that your not spending that time with her.
@bobbybonesshow I have planned and rescheduled my wedding twice. We could just go down to the courthouse but we decided ultimately that we would wait to do what we really wanted to do. We've already waited 5 years. What's one more year? Moral of the story... do what will make you happy.