This is how to compliment without simping.
And why all the traditional never-validate advice is incomplete.
Notice how there’s really zero repression, he’s very liberal with complimenting.
“You are so cute” “I’m so serious” “You have such a cool look to you”
If he feels like saying it, he says it.
And he doesn’t come across like a fan at all. Reason why is because of the back and forth energy balance.
Yes he compliments and validates, but he also takes away validation too.
By:
Giving her shit -
“Yes you, not the person behind you”
“I love how you’re so taken aback, as if this is not happening to you all day”
By evaluating her -
“… all black, I had to come see what’s happening”
His entire demeanor throughout the interaction is a give and take.
And so no matter how much he compliments,
The balance remains even as he equally breaks rapport just as much if not more.
“You speak good English right?”
“Omg you’re unbelievable”
“You’re kidding”
Interrupting her and changing threads,
Leading the conversation.
What’s being communicated is:
“Yes I am interested but I’m not a pushover”
The interest comes not from pedeatalization but from expressing purely what’s on his mind.
Both the positive and the negative.
And that’s what works.