Three things I’m tired of people treating like meritocracies: beauty, marriage, and reproduction. They’re lotteries, not moral victories or proof of worth.
I think the joy we are seeking in other places can actually be made possible by the interpersonal connections we build in this country.
The more you lean into building a happy platonic, familial, financial and romantic life, you can be really happy here.
I’ve met so many nice men who are equally uninspiring and I just have to accept it’s not enough for me. I like to have admiration for the person I’m with and equally inspire them too. I’d rather not have a relationship than have the lukewarm version 😬