Men: if your wife or girlfriend only has sex with you because you get angry or give her the silent treatment if she doesn’t; if you have sex with her when she is too drunk/high to consent or she is asleep; if you pressure her into sex... Then you are raping her. You are a rapist
It's like *pathological demand avoidance* but make it something inflicting men when women speak. The problem tends to disappear when it's a man speaking. One person talked about a woman who calls the husband's best friend whenever she needs a huge decision to be made 😥😥😥
My Autistic brain has to *learn by observation* - I don't pick up social cues so teaching them to me as a child was likely futile to my oblivious brain. So I kinda *learn by observing patterns* - ever since I started my ADHD medication, I'm noticing weird social norms like these.
... About something really petty that he should have just agreed with. She asked him "what exactly are you resisting?" - which is when he remembered what I'd told him. It's socialized resistance to women speaking - and every man I know does it either subconsciously or consciously
Oh, he is one of those allies who believed that he's very supportive of women in his life (I'm hoping he's stopped believing that). All while responding with resounding no to things that should not get a no. He didn't say what but he found himself in an argument with his sister.
Some things you just do. You think, you do - not everything needs to be a debate. It's "let's get this" and the person goes "okay" and then you get the thing. Another was a story of someone's husband chiming in to say negative things whenever she's chatting with friends 😳
This gets horrid when it piles up. It makes daily conversations with men anxiety inducing for women because you have to *literally prepare a defence for everything*. In a good no of cases - women stop mentioning or asking anything. No one wants a fucking toothpaste discussion.