I saw on TikTok where a girl planned a surprise anniversary trip for her boyfriend. She saved for months, booked a small beach resort, decorated the room with their photos, and wrote him a long letter about how much she loved him and believed in him. She was shaking when she gave it to him because she really put her heart into it.
He skimmed the letter, said “Thanks, babe,” and spent most of the trip on his phone playing games and talking to his friends. She kept smiling in the video, but later admitted in the comments that she cried alone in the bathroom that night.
And honestly? That’s when I realized: some men don’t hate romance. They just don’t care enough about you to try.
My father is not Otedola
But my mother never lifted a finger to work during any of her pregnancies.
She is still a size 8 at 67+ because daddy keeps funding her healthy feeding
I grew up eating veggies like Broccoli, kale, cauliflower, zucchini, radishes etc because my father could afford paying for them to be brought fresh from Jos for his wife monthly.
My mom grows berries, custard apples and other exotic fruits at home because her husband could afford a house with enough land for her horticultural garden and is building her a bigger house with even more land for gardening
If I say I want a man with my father’s money A LOT of you in this generation won’t be able to afford 1% of the comfort he gave and still gives my mom.
I eat salads, drink green teas constantly and I know how expensive they are. The average Nigerian man cannot daily pay 12k for breakfast and dinner salad (I am doing this for myself as a single woman because I grew up eating this way).
Otedola is far, middle income fathers exist and a lot of you small boys still can’t afford the things our middle class fathers can afford but keep talking.