Your routine can change over time. The only thing that can’t change though, is that obsession. You have to enter every activity, every single time, with a want and need to do it to the best of your ability.
A friend who beat an alcohol addiction told me that the hardest thing to being sober was the perpetuity of the grind. He thought that being sober would be a climax, the final defeat of a yearning. Yet all he got as a reward, for the constant maintenance, was not drinking.
There’s a certain type of privacy & alone time I require in order for me to feel like I’m still functioning and operating as an individual. I cannot do the codependency or enmeshment.
It’s so sad that women being in pain is so normal that pain free periods are seen as abnormal while it should be baseline. Never had a cramp my entire life and there’s nothing “special” I do before my period for this to be the case, not even a diet change.
One thing about Oontz events you can go out solo and still feel part of a community. Long live the Kenyan Oontz community you guys push us DJs everyday 🌪️
Put yourself in situations where you have too much at stake to waste time or resources—if you cannot afford to lose, you won’t. Place yourself on “death ground,” where your back is against the wall and you have to fight like hell to get out alive.
Or we really just love our houses and recharge our energies better when we are alone, in our happy safe space. Not everything is a damn trauma response..
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One of the greatest gifts you can ever give yourself, is that of humility and the daily death of your ego enough to see yourself as human - flawed, sometimes wrong, capable of harm - and capable of growth, and change.
Whenever things go wrong, allow them to. Don't try to be superman all the time. Sit with the discomfort and allow yourself to be in that state then teach yourself to regulate.
One thing about being a good listener and observing people/ patterns, is the fact that it makes you become a very good gifter.. I love giving gifts, and they always have to be thoughtful, especially to the people I care about..
It’s a principle I live by; I am either committed to one person or to no one at all.
The level of dedication i put into loving and choosing one person is not something i can divide among other people.