Birders have a tradition of "lifer pie," when we see a new-to-us bird species so we celebrate by eating pie. I'd like to propose "lifer dip," when we travel a long way and utterly fail to see a bird, so we drown our sorrows in guacamole.
a bunch of my friends are choosing between PhD programs. here's my advice to them:
it is FAR more important to work with someone who is kind, than someone who does exactly the research you want to do or is at a prestigious institution.