Be careful about having relationships with people with no emotional intelligence. They will never understand you, they will personalize everything, and you will never be seen and heard. Be careful about having relationships with people who can't regulate their emotions you will always be at the mercy of their rages, and bad moods. Be careful about having relationships with people with no self awareness, they have no idea how their behavior affects the people around them, so it's a matter of time before you get hurt. Be careful about having relationships with people without empathy, they will never see or care about how you feel.If no one has ever told you, I am telling you now. Look for people in your life with emotional intelligence, self awareness, empathy and the ability to regulate their emotions or you will be at the mercy of their dysfunction and pay the price for their immaturity and lack of growth.
i do right by everyone at first and then i mirror you once you show me how you are, people hate when u show them how it feels to be treated the same way they treat you. ppl hate their reflection.
it be so funny to me when ppl make up scenarios & perceptions of me , like they be trying to make up a false reality to villainize me or seem more of a bad person so they won’t have to take accountability of how shitty they actually are. Whatever helps you cope lol
IDK WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS BUTTT… you don’t have to deal with anything you don’t want to.‼️ If you’re tired of someone, you have every right to cut them off. If you feel like a job doesn’t appreciate you, you have every right to leave. If you feel like something no longer aligns with you, you have every right to disconnect. Stop letting things drain you. Stop tolerating what disrespects you. Stop staying where you feel small. This is your life. YOUR happiness comes first.💯
ngl if a female text me asking about her ngga & she coming respectfully, ima tell her what’s going on, idk why y’all be so rude about it like ugh 😂
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score.
And eventually, the bill comes due.
just because you did something wrong in the past doesn't mean you can't advocate against it now. it doesn't make you a hypocrite, you grew. don't let people use your past to invalidate your current mindset!
I like being the way I am, a little distant from everyone, direct when necessary, with a serious face, I don't talk to just anyone, nor do I try to fit in where I don't want to be, and the truth is I am calm and at peace like this
THIS IS GOING TO OFFEND A LOT OF NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE: It’s time you start admitting that you mistreated people and acted out of line, instead of being delusional and constantly acting like you were the victim. This was hard for me, I had to do this myself.
The truth is, your own actions put you in the position where you lost people who genuinely cared for you. You pushed away the ones who loved you, disrespected the ones who tried to help you, and then blamed everyone else when the consequences of your behavior caught up with you.
I think the best thing I’m learning as an adult is to ignore people. When you realize people say & do weird & evil things to get a reaction out of you , you learn that silence is more powerful than proving a point. No response is the loudest response. The moment you respond people start feeling important & think they bigger than the program but I control the traffic.
Some people will go to great lengths to provoke you, hoping you'll act out of character to fit the narrative they've created about you.
Stay calm, stay wise, and don't give them the satisfaction.
Silence is power.
everybody wants to be toxic so bad, and i’m over here trying to unlearn every toxic trait in me. i don't wanna argue, i don't want to be disrespectful, act cold, match energy, or question love. i want to be gentle, accountable, emotionally intelligent, and supportive. i literally crave a soft peaceful life.
behind closed doors, i’ve done a lot for people. real help, real support! no cameras, no credit 🤐so when my name come up, tell that part too‼️
how i showed up when i didn’t have to, stayed solid even when it wasn’t returned 🤧
keep it real all the way or don’t speak on me at all 🤏🏽