Karen DeArmond Gardner

Pastoral Trauma Coach and Advocate
Author: Hope for Healing from Domestic Abuse

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@MargMowczko Thank you Marg for adding dimension to Jesus’ encounters with women.

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Triangulation is a subtle and devastating tactic used by abusers to create distrust and isolation. When the abuser intentionally turns your children, parents, or close friends against you, it's more than just manipulation, it's an emotional betrayal that cuts you to the core.

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Sleep deprivation is one of the most overlooked and damaging forms of abuse. It's a form of torture, it's about keeping you so tired that you can't think straight, make decisions, or trust your own perception.

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@karenmitchell__ @DavidPuder Thank you Karen for giving more detail about the smirk. As I read I remembered the smirk on his face. It’s not contempt, it’s scary dangerous. And hard to forget.

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@shadows_control Those say this never tell you how to let it go. 🤣

There is no letting go, the only way is through and no one gets to tell us how long the through is.

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@watchkeep They are telling on themselves.

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@JCRyle He lost to his own lust.

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@shadows_control We had good times too.

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@shadows_control Hope for Healing from Domestic Abuse and Healing from Hidden Abuse.

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@wartwatch It’s an important story.

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@wartwatch I have friends who struggled with the decision, it’s been their life for so long that it’s hard to make the change. And the fear that people think they are with what RM did weighs on them. They may stay because an older family member won’t leave so they stay for them.

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@caroline0673 They often change tactics, so it looks like they changed.

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In the aftermath of domestic abuse, escaping isolation is difficult, which abusers exploit.

We weren't meant to suffer in silence or isolation, yet the fear of seeking help can be overwhelming.

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@shadows_control Oh my word, so many times over 30 years.

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@tracesoffaith Hope for Healing from Domestic Abuse.

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@aimeebyrdPYW Thank you Aimee. I escaped and living my best life. 💔❤️‍🩹❤️

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@KT_Carlisle What you’re experiencing is normal in the aftermath of domestic abuse. It can feel like you had a blind fold on and spun around. Once it’s off you’re disoriented and overwhelmed.

Give yourself lots of grace, mercy, and patience as you navigate the trauma, pain, and betrayal.

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@MaryDeMuth @hulu It’s always hard to see when you’re in the middle of the mess.

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@KT_Carlisle Air away. So many women are experiencing the same dirty laundry and you give them the courage to air theirs. 👏👏