My red flag is that if you don't talk to me, I won't talk to you either. But not because I don't want to talk to you, but because I think if you don't want to talk to me, I should give you space so I don't bother you
I pretend Valentine's doesn't matter
Because no one ever made it matter for me
No surprises
No flowers
No " planned this for you" So I learned not to expect it.