In Wendell Berry's honor, I propose that the rest of the United States enjoy the freedoms of Alaska, Hawaii, Maine, and Vermont in the complete elimination of all billboard advertising.
recently someone read a poem that spun in my head for days
the last line: "it's fear that will give you half a life & convince you, you never wanted the other half anyway"
it's been a new challenge figuring out how to paint someone else's poem. i like how this turned out
Game plan for never getting hurt again:
-be perfect (above criticism/rejection)
-cultivate an unbothered state
-oops neither of those are super doable so cultivate the appearance of them instead
-seek constant external validation
-repress bad feelings, feed yourself comforting lies
-demand that everyone understand and value you
-get into transactional relationships with ppl that increase your status
-hold it together as long as possible… occasionally crack and have an “ego death” or smth and start again
or…
-learn to physically feel emotional pain so it can complete
-forgive yourself for being messy and imperfect
-realize you’re made from the same stuff as everyone else
-love the boring steady ppl in your life
-get to know new ppl slowly over time
-cultivate helpfulness
-seek truth (not just the good or bad, but both together)
-realize pain is inevitable no matter what
-do what you would do if you were “healed”
The most powerful lies from the enemy come in the form of false virtue narratives:
If you don't finish something you should have never started or have no business finishing, it's because "you're not persevering".
If you are trying to convince or win someone over, or 'save' them—but they continue to resist—rather than respecting their freedom and entrusting them to God's care, you should always just "be more persistent."
If you distance yourself from a toxic group, you're not being discerning or protecting your soul—you’re “lacking charity” or “causing division.”
This is pure spiritual manipulation, and it is the most vicious kind of lie...because it contains a desire for virtue, and uses it against you.
“That's the deal with friendship. If you want a friend to change your life, you've got to let them in, not just when they're a well-oiled machine but when they're down a heart and calcified in rust. And hopefully you can tell them that you love the rust too.”