Go through that phone before you have a kid with them, before you put a title on the relationship, before you get married. There are multiple times that phone should be looked at so you know exactly what you’re getting yourself involved with. The whole “I’ll let whatever reveal itself to me when it’s time” is reckless. You don’t want things coming out 10yrs later that you could’ve figured out and seen a couple months in.
once u stop fantasizing about an ideal version of urself & start working towards it by setting ur alarm clock earlier, working out, reading & stop procrastinating you'll realise that it was so easy all along. ur ideal self will only ever exist in ur mind until u make the decision
I love people who decide they want better and quietly start changing everything. No announcements, no explanations just new habits, stronger boundaries, higher standards, and a completely different life.
bring back women having oddly specific personal traditions. peach cobbler on the first cold night. fresh flowers after payday. a solo birthday breakfast. champagne when something scary works out. give your life some folklore.
May a soul who isn’t sure about me never find their way back to me again. I don’t want to be someone’s uncertainty, temporary comfort, or “maybe.” May I only be found by people who are certain about my place in their life and intentional about keeping me there.
at some point, you really have to tell yourself "this isn't an experience i want to keep having" and stop entertaining things that don't benefit you in any way