Kevin Teh

Toronto, Pasadena, San Francisco, Paris. Husband and dad.

[Kevin Teh @kkwteh]

@Romy_Holland Is it yellow on the inside or is it blue on the inside?

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@hot_cocoa_girl The impossibility of representing yourself in any true and meaningful way in a dating profile, and the complete fungibility of profiles.

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@TheAnnaGat The true path is to go to SF to make a difference, and then go to Europe and find a girl.

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@Romy_Holland I’ve had to deal with this and it drove me crazy for awhile. I realized after a few years that it comes from some need to self actualise. It’s as if she doesn’t fully exist unless she’s talking. Since I’ve realized this it’s been easier to accept.

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<New Yorker cartoon.jpg> On Moltbook, no one knows you’re a human.

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In France there is a vacation culture, where it is normal to take a long vacation in the summer. In the US, if I told my coworkers that I didn’t take any time off, the dedication to work would seem admirable. In France it’d seem as though some disaster had befallen you.

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In Paris, riding an electric unicycle is like driving a Jeep. People wave to everyone else who has one.

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@relic_radiation Been married for 7 years with 2 kids. Much of the marriage has been happy. When I turned 32 a switch flipped and I went into full commit mode. I think that’s the main difference with earlier near misses. There were definitely unexpected twists and turns, especially re work.

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Someone asked me if it’s true that the French are snobs. I explained they’re self-conscious about their English and annoyed to have to speak it in their own country, and that I’ve only ever spoken French to them and was always well-received for it. He refused to believe me.

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The French struggle. 😂😂

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@selentelechia So it’s not just my wife then. But seriously, things got so bad that we couldn’t find a better solution than for me to just stop working and have two full time parents for a while.

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@QiaochuYuan For me it was when I finished the core PhD sequence and had to do actual research.

[Visakan Veerasamy @visakanv]

for starters I don’t think you’re selfish for not having children

and kids actually are a joy to have

but if you need a different reason, I really liked what some other couple once said, about wanting to have “a maximum human experience”. I’ll elaborate how I interpreted that

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@QiaochuYuan I’m rooting for you, dude

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@Appyg99 Are you never going to be old and sick? I agree that it wasn't an issue in my late 20's and early 30's, but the idea of getting old in the US scared the crap out of me.

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@lucky_l_uq @faraz_r_khan @Appyg99 Yes I can understand this point of view as well.

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@faraz_r_khan @Appyg99 Yes but growing up in the 90s, Asian culture wasn’t as popular as it is now. Mostly it was just kung fu movies back then. I remember feeling like an outsider as a kid. Much less so today, whether in Paris or in the US/Canada.

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@faraz_r_khan @Appyg99 *east asians

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@faraz_r_khan @Appyg99 There aren’t many easy Asians in Paris, but I feel less out of place in Paris than I did growing up in Toronto. I think it’s because of moving up class wise and how much an impact that has on how you’re treated