“But in the end, it's only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines, it'll shine out the clearer.” Samwise, LOTR
Focus on effort, not outcomes.
As Marcus Aurelius said, it’s insane to tie your wellbeing to things outside of your control. If you did your best, if you gave it your all, if you acted with your best judgment—that is a win…regardless of whether it’s a good or bad outcome.
Someday everything will make perfect sense. So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.
~ Paulo Coelho
You're bored because you're comfortable.
You're comfortable because you're scared of change.
You're scared of change because you lack perspective.
Don't change everything at once.
Change one thing at a time.
But don't aim small.
Big irrational goals.
Small rational steps.
Navy SEALs have a saying.
You may find it helpful.
When something sucks, they look at each other and say:
"FULL BENEFIT"
It’s an instant mindset shift.
• Hiking and it starts pouring rain?
• Driving and your car breaks down?
• Working on a project and lost a draft?
FULL BENEFIT.
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LESSON: Adversity is an opportunity
The message is simple.
Every adversity is an opportunity.
• To grow
• To learn
• To evolve
• To get stronger
• To become better
These moments forge us if we let them.
The next time you're facing something hard, welcome it.
Work through the process.
Learn the lessons.
Reap the full benefit.
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On the 27th straight day of filming “Forrest Gump,” Tom Hanks was tired & worried.
During a scene on the famous park bench, Hanks stopped & said to director Bob Zemeckis,
“Hey, Bob…is anybody going to care about this movie? I don’t think anybody’s going to care.”
Bob replied,
“It’s a minefield, Tom. You never know what’s good…It’s a minefield! It’s a goddam minefield! We may be sowing the seeds of our own destruction.”
Tom Hanks told this story after he was asked, “When I ask for a memory from your career, what’s the first thing that comes to mind?”
He said that what Zemeckis said was true of every movie he’s worked on:
“There’s never any guarantee...You do not know if it is going to work out.”
Takeaway 1:
Hanks is the 5th-most highest-grossing actor of all time.
And yet, the stickiest memory of his career is the feeling of uncertainty.
Rarer than talent or work ethic, the poet John Keats wrote, is the ability to step into and push through doubts and uncertainties.
In 1817, Keats wrote a letter to his brothers to share this exciting realization.
“At once it struck me,” Keats wrote, “what quality went to form a Man of Achievement … Negative Capability.”
Keats explains that “Negative Capability” is “when a man is capable of being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching after fact and reason.”
Takeaway 2:
Those who possess Negative Capability, who can sit with uncertainty, who can spend months or years in the minefield that is working on something while knowing that there is a real possibility no one will care about it—they often possess another quality.
They do what they do, not as a means to some end (money, fame, awards, etc.), but for the sake of doing it.
When asked about one of his movies that commercially failed, Hanks said,
"I loved making that movie. I loved writing it, I loved being with it. I love all the people in it."
As Ryan Holiday once told me, "The work has to be the win."
You control the effort, he says, not the results.
"So ultimately, you have to love doing it. You have to get to a place where doing the work is the win and everything else is extra.”
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“Life is like a box of chocolates: you never know what you're going to get.” — Forrest Gump
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On the 27th straight day of filming “Forrest Gump,” Tom Hanks was tired & worried.
During a scene on the famous park bench, Hanks stopped & said to director Bob Zemeckis,
“Hey, Bob…is anybody going to care about this movie? I don’t think anybody’s going to care.”
Bob replied,
“It’s a minefield, Tom. You never know what’s good…It’s a minefield! It’s a goddam minefield! We may be sowing the seeds of our own destruction.”
Tom Hanks told this story after he was asked, “When I ask for a memory from your career, what’s the first thing that comes to mind?”
He said that what Zemeckis said was true of every movie he’s worked on:
“There’s never any guarantee...You do not know if it is going to work out.”
Takeaway 1:
Hanks is the 5th-most highest-grossing actor of all time.
And yet, the stickiest memory of his career is the feeling of uncertainty.
Rarer than talent or work ethic, the poet John Keats wrote, is the ability to step into and push through doubts and uncertainties.
In 1817, Keats wrote a letter to his brothers to share this exciting realization.
“At once it struck me,” Keats wrote, “what quality went to form a Man of Achievement … Negative Capability.”
Keats explains that “Negative Capability” is “when a man is capable of being in uncertainties, mysteries, doubts, without any irritable reaching after fact and reason.”
Takeaway 2:
Those who possess Negative Capability, who can sit with uncertainty, who can spend months or years in the minefield that is working on something while knowing that there is a real possibility no one will care about it—they often possess another quality.
They do what they do, not as a means to some end (money, fame, awards, etc.), but for the sake of doing it.
When asked about one of his movies that commercially failed, Hanks said,
"I loved making that movie. I loved writing it, I loved being with it. I love all the people in it."
As Ryan Holiday once told me, "The work has to be the win."
You control the effort, he says, not the results.
"So ultimately, you have to love doing it. You have to get to a place where doing the work is the win and everything else is extra.”
- - -
“Life is like a box of chocolates: you never know what you're going to get.” — Forrest Gump
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Cormac McCarthy, the Pulitzer Prize-winning novelist known for "The Road" and "No Country For Old Men," died Tuesday. He was 89. https://t.co/m74ASaRkxb
Cormac McCarthy, the Pulitzer Prize-winning novelist known for "The Road" and "No Country For Old Men," died Tuesday. He was 89. https://t.co/m74ASaRkxb