Marcele

[Marcele @kmarcele]

The dog I designed to fix my relationship with my mother was, objectively, hideous.https://t.co/qcZpF7u0I1

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

Just me? 📚📚

[Marcele @kmarcele]

Community erosion is feeling so real, especially in future forward places like SF, where driverless cars, self checkout, AI restaurant hosts zap out any last chance for small interactions and a way to connect.

[The New Yorker @NewYorker]

The number of words we speak daily seems to be dropping by more than 300 each year. Some researchers blame the internet; others blame the erosion of small, everyday interactions with strangers. https://t.co/j6OWM14q8k

[Christina Buttons @buttonslives]

Yes. They’ve been doing it for a long time, but now more people than ever are going to therapy.

When I was 19, back in 2008, I got a new therapist who introduced me to the idea that abuse could also be “emotional” or “psychological,” not just physical or sexual, and convinced me that my parents were abusive. We didn’t speak again until 2013, five years later, when my mom was diagnosed with cancer.

We’re very close now, but I can’t get that time back with them, nor can I undo the bad decisions I made while trying to navigate young adulthood on my own.

Now I’m very critical of trauma narratives. The concept creep of “trauma” and “abuse” has expanded those terms so much that any flaws or mistakes on your parents’ part are increasingly recast as forms of harm that cause irreparable damage, making them an easy scapegoat for any dissatisfaction you have in your life.

[Marcele @kmarcele]

The real risk is where we let our attention go by default. 10,000 hours is a lot to lose (or to gain).

[Marcele @kmarcele]

6 - Ask for thinkers, not thinking.
I asked what Joan Didion might've thought of a story I wrote about Central Park. She had some interesting things to say. Wanting some edge, I should ask Fran Lebowitz next.

[Marcele @kmarcele]

5 - Draw a hard line: rote work vs. creative work.
Let AI clean up those routine emails. Writing and creative thinking? That's my 10,000 hours. Non-negotiable.

[Marcele @kmarcele]

I use AI constantly. But lately I keep thinking about Gladwell's 10,000 Hour Rule in becoming good at something: so what should I outsource, and what should I invest my time in? 🧵
New piece: https://t.co/zecRixMl6L

[Marcele @kmarcele]

4 - Redesign the bots.
I use a "Marcelify" feature to write in my voice. Forces me to define what my voice even is, i.e. - warm vs. direct, in emails and beyond.

[Marcele @kmarcele]

3 - Rotate tasks.
Do one thing with the bot, one thing without. Keeps you honest about what you actually need help with.

[Marcele @kmarcele]

2 - Start with a blank page.
Write the piece first. Submit for feedback second. Painful. Necessary. Keeps the muscle.

[Marcele @kmarcele]

1 - Ask for hints, not answers.
I won't ask AI for a pancake recipe hint,just tell me. But for essay structure? Give me a hint, not the answer. Let me still do the discovering.

[Marcele @kmarcele]

The Marathoners have real technique. Here's how I'm trying to apply it to writing:

[Marcele @kmarcele]

David Brooks (The Atlantic) sorts people into 3 camps for how they'll handle AI:
→ Productive Passengers: full cognitive surrender, AI does the thinking
→ Reluctant Optimizers: know better, cave anyway
→ Mental Marathoners: outsource the tedious, keep the meaningful work

[Liz Wolfe @LizWolfeReason]

Unintentionally heartbreaking. Doing it *to this degree* is reserved for the ultra-wealthy, but *plenty* of upper-middle-class families in big cities like New York do a version of this. When so much of parenting & household-management is professionalized:
-the standards ratchet upwards (naturally, parenting/taking care of children is more intensive when it's the *sole* thing someone is tasked w doing, as opposed to the traditional SAHM model where the mom is tackling like seven things at once)
-community becomes fragmented or nonexistent (because everything is transactional, and every function of the family is outsourced, so swapping watching one another's kids or cooking dinner for another family that just drops in no longer happens)
-kids don't necessarily learn how to manage their future households and learn critical life skills (like how to do their own laundry, clean their own bathrooms, or––yes––take care of younger siblings)

We have replaced "the village" we so deeply crave with a professionalized advice economy (sleep consultants, lactation consultants, night nannies, day nannies, nannies you take on vacation with you, postpartum doulas, parenting coaches, bike-riding consultants) and then wonder why we're lonely and spiritually undernourished.

[Reads with Ravi @readswithravi]

“The best people in your life are the ones who see potential in you that you didn't see in yourself.”

— Brian Chesky, Airbnb CEO

[Fareed Zakaria @FareedZakaria]

From the nation’s beginnings, Americans have usually known whom to root for — those who seek freedom.

In spurning Ukrainian President Zelensky, President Trump is now reorienting not just American foreign policy, but America’s moral compass.

My take:

[Marcele @kmarcele]

@JonasBadalic @KianSadeghi5 @GarettJones I’d manage expectations and save the burrito craving for the Mission in SF. In NY, the closest thing I found to real deal Mexican was Los Tacos No. 1 https://t.co/7B9t0mllvN

[Marcele @kmarcele]

@JonasBadalic https://t.co/4P7NrJ8lKC

[Marcele @kmarcele]

@jonstewart https://t.co/81PLUzV6ga

[Tommy Beer @TommyBeer]

90s Knicks fans to the kids: