Wrote about Ariana Grande bringing the Eternal Sunshine Tour’s celebration of real-time healing to Brooklyn’s Barclays Center for a five-night run last week — and how her “Thank U, Next” lyric changes bolster the show’s overall narrative ♾️☀️🤍
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Memory loss from depression and trauma is so underrated. Like, I did not forget on purpose, but my brain just decided to hit delete on random conversations, days, and sometimes an entire phase of my life.
People talk about sadness, crying, and anxiety, but no one really talks about how your memory just starts glitching. You re-read chats like, "Did I really say that?" You forget things you should remember, and it's not even in a funny, "Oh, I'm grateful I don't remember," way. It's more like, "Why do I feel like my brain is constantly buffering?"
And the worst part is, you start questioning yourself, like, "Am I overreacting? Did it actually happen? Was it even that bad?" Because when your memory goes away, your sense of reality kind of goes with it.
But yeah, sure. Let's keep pretending healing is all about drinking water, journaling, and going for a walk..
THIS IS WHAT I’VE BEEN SAYING😭 a lot of things people criticize ariana for is just basic human shit like aging, changing your style/hair, losing weight, gaining weight, messy relationships, speaking in a specific tone in interviews, being emotional, homoerotic friendships, getting a fucking tan, hating america. do i need to keep going??? 😭
The comments about Ariana’s body lately have been awful. You never know what someone is going through.
As someone who’s always been very skinny, seeing people constantly analyze and criticize someone’s appearance makes me so sad.
Let’s be kinder. Bodies aren’t public property.
ariana’s body is literally fine. my chest is the exact same as hers & i eat so so much & struggle to put on weight, but i’m still healthy like hello???? anyone heard of fast metabolisms or???
Cynthia Erivo talks to Variety about people joking about her being Ariana Grande’s “bodyguard” after she defended her from a red carpet intruder:
“I think that we haven’t really come to terms with the insidious nature of how we view Black women. And I’m sure people will read this and think, ‘Oh, for goodness’ sake, it’s not about that.’ But it is. Because that’s what was being made fun of. It was my physique; it was my shape; it was the fact that I was bald; it was about what I looked like. And because of that, there was this assumption that I was bigger than my co-star and so I had to be controlling or protecting, and that was my role. I would hazard a guess that it would not have been the same had it been the other way around.”
Cynthia Erivo to Variety on the public’s perception of her friendship with Ariana Grande:
“It’s very interesting, watching what people’s perception is versus what the reality actually is. Lots of psychologists seated at home deciding who we were, what we were going through, what we were doing and why. I think that people didn’t really believe that we were actually friends. But that’s also because people don’t know me very well. If I’m a friend, then I’m a friend. If I’m not, then I’m not.”
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People need to understand what is happening with Britney. Because I’ve seen this pattern happen to me and it’s disgusting to see it’s happening to her.
She was scapegoated by her parents. Narcissistic abuse her entire life. She first started having a nervous breakdown remember back when she shaved her head… They used that trauma response to say that she had inherent mental problems. They used the traumas response from the abuse they committed against her to shame her and make her out to be the problem and then use that to gain full control over her life. That traumatized her further. Which she is experiencing now is extreme and severe complex PTSD. This is some of the most severe complex PTSD you will ever see. She does not have bipolar disorder. She does not have any other problems aside from psychological abuse trauma. I have seen all these behavior patterns in her, in me when I was still freshly recovering from my nervous breakdown and CPTSD. For instance I thought it would be nice to bring my probation officer a friendship fruitcake starter culture. I was so detached from reality, I just reverted back to basic behaviors like being nice and being friendly because everyone’s trying to tell you you’re the problem and you know that you’re really not. And now everybody’s focusing on her behavior and completely ignoring the fact that her behavior is evidence of how badly she was abused by her family. That’s what we should be paying attention to. Yes she needs recovery help. Why? Because she was so badly abused she’s now permanently traumatized. What it feels like for her is the psychological equivalent of just barely having your lips above water and the rest of you is below the surface and you’re just able to take sips of air. Your head isn’t even above water anymore. And you’re just trying to act like you’re fine the best you can because you don’t want to be traumatized. You don’t want to accept that you have been so severely damaged and traumatized by your own family. She needs compassion. She needs people not to focus on her behavior but to tell her how fucked up it was how her family treated her and traumatized her. She needs to know that for what she’s been through she’s handling it very well and she’s surviving like a champion. I’m so sick of the lack of compassion people show her. Some of the comments from posts like this make me so angry.