We need to decentre the idea that every marital or mjolo problem must be taken to elders. Elders are not therapists, and many will naturally advise from their own experiences and values. They got married in a completely different era, with different pressures, expectations and realities. Sometimes what you need is professional guidance
I have decided to stop gambling. It really messed up my life. The money I have spend trying to make more money took what I had to take care of my daily ends and family. I have deleted all my profiles and gambling apps from my phone as I am starting a new life. I have lost big.