bitch i was depressed for months, nobody noticed. i still showed up for people even when i didn’t know how to show up for myself. that’s why i don’t buy the whole “i was going through something” excuse for treating people badly. we’re all going through something
I watched my friend cry in her car for 30 minutes, then walked in my house smiling and joking like nothing even happened. People really be fighting silent battles every day while still showing up and making others smile.
Ngl, adult friendships require grace. People are very busy. People are healing. People are growing. People are taking time for self care just like you. Less communication isn't less love. Check in not out.
men are the real gold diggers. they expect you to give them your body, play maid, cook their meals, raise their kids, clean their mess, pamper their fragile egos, and take the brunt of emotional labor, all while holding down a job and splitting the bills !!
Healthy relationships are tight as fuck. It’s so cool to be able to be like “hey you’re doing these things that are really bothering me let’s address them and work on it.” And have it not end in screaming and crying and insults. Communication is super hot.
i'm a type C girl...
- i can deep clean the whole house. or ignore a laundry pile for days.
- i can give a motivational pep talk, or need one myself.
- i can be 20 mins early or walk in 20 mins late.
- i can go to bed at 8pm, or scroll reels until the sun comes up.
i stand on the fact that your birthday is the one day of the year that everybody needs to fall in line. it’s 1 of 365. you can’t show any effort for 24hrs??? bye