i am begging some of you to become ok with hearing not-so-great-things about yourself. especially if it is coming from a loved one that historically respects your agency. chances are you unknowingly crossed a boundary & someone is trying to tell you in a respectful way.
A woman can type "I hate men" while being with a man because, for women, "I hate men" means "I hate rapists, potential rapists, fuckboys, and ill-mannered men." That phrase does not refer to respectable men(it's hard to find).Maybe her partner is none of those things.