It's so selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their peace because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
Young ladies need to watch The Polygamist. Not for entertainment, but for the lessons hidden in plain sight.
Watch how people behave, the choices they make, and how those choices affect everyone around them. Too many young women believe they will be different or that things will work out differently for them.