Time passing isn’t an apology. Don’t let these kinds of people come back into your life and act like everything is normal if they couldn’t take accountability for what they did wrong in that moment, not weeks, months, or years later.
“tenz and kyedae broke up love isnt real” but it thats an example of how it is real. Loving someone so much to where you can let them go and grow as people separately is something to respect!!! breakups aren’t always negative!!
If you ended a relationship and realized they didn't go looking for another person, didn't go out partying, but instead started running, training, taking care of themselves, and distancing themselves from everyone so they could overcome themselves... I'm sorry to tell you that they truly did love you.
And I'm sorry to say you let a very good person slip away, one you won't find again... not even in another lifetime.
I avoid eggshell type of relationships, can’t express yourself, can’t be yourself, can’t ever be straight forward, can’t be comfortable, can’t talk like adults, can’t be heard, can’t respond with love without it turning into something negative…
i don’t beg to be chosen. if you’re comfortable losing me, just now that i’m also comfortable letting you go. yes i love deeply, but i detach even deeper.
a key indicator that you're in a narcissistic relationship is when things only remain peaceful as long as you suppress your feelings, thoughts, and opinions. the moment you begin to assert yourself, express discomfort, or challenge their behavior, even gently, the dynamic shifts.
breakups hurt but you know what really fucking hurts? trying to “make it work” with someone who has proven to you time and time again that they do not give a fuck about your feelings. that hurts.
something that confuses me is, why am i expected to stay calm and understanding while people do things they know will make me angry or upset me? and then it’s like, if i speak up about how something made me feel i’m wrong?
You are not meant to train a grown person to be empathetic. If you keep having to explain why your feelings matter, the issue is not your delivery, it is their capacity. Empathy is chosen, not forced.
pushing someone to their breaking point and then shaming them when they break is a form of abuse.. pushing, provoking, harming them and flip the blame so you look like the victim..it’s manipulation