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super sun @larnrhay

almost 9 years ago

The problem is "we don't listen to understand but listen to reply"

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super sun @larnrhay

about 2 months ago

@PoojaMedia When Arsenal drop points, it's always labelled as "bottling," but when rivals take points off other title contenders, people call it "help" or "doing Arsenal a favor" Narrative will always change when it involves Arsenak

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@YusufAsunmogejo

3 months ago

Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith. First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul. If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her. Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them. A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward. He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now. Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar. Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity. Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do. Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight. Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break. Allah knows best.

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David Hundeyin

@DavidHundeyin

6 months ago

This actually isn't the worst I've seen. I read last year about an app used to assign shifts to nurses and other healthcare professionals, which draws their credit score data from Experian, and then uses that to calculate how much to offer per shift. Essentially, the lower the credit score, the more desperate to make money the nurse is deemed, and the lower the pay they are offered. I mean it is one thing to do this gamified capitalism bullshit to delivery drivers and Ubers, but it is another thing entirely to turn payment for lifesaving healthcare professionals into the Hunger Games. And once I understood that capitalism has no safety rails and no adults in the room, and the animating philosophy of the rich white men behind it has not changed one single bit since they used to farm free labour and call human beings "property", I abandoned the idea of negotiating with it or reforming it. It really is just a stupid system invented by white men who would happily turn off the sun if doing so would boost their Q3 EBITDA 15%.

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