2018 will be the year of extreme self improvement/empowerment so if you are not going to support this task please stay far far far far far away from me :)
The healer also needs healing. The planner also needs surprises. The giver also needs to receive. The thoughtful also needs to be thought of. The considerate also needs to be considered.
In your relationships, create the habit of asking people how they prefer to be talked to:
-How do you prefer to be approached when upset?
-How do you communicate when triggered?
-How do you like for people to tell you when something you did hurt them?
-What makes you feel heard?
My mom broke down today. There were over 80 patients in the ER last night, understaffed, and today she had to hear family tell her COVID isn’t real and that feeling burnout makes you a terrible nurse. She just kept crying and said there’s no help to be seen
I am all rage and grief today with nowhere to put it so this is my story: last year I was 18 weeks into a very wanted pregnancy when I learned that the baby I was carrying had a catastrophic, fatal diagnosis—triploidy—and I had three “options” for moving forward.
Called a patient after her breast cancer surgery to check on her. She felt physically well, but said she thought she’d feel more relieved and like she was “past it”, but told me she realized maybe you never get to get past cancer. I took a deep breath before responding, (1/4)
one of my regulars told me that when his wife died instead of a funeral they had a big ass party at a movie theatre & put together a 2 hour long video with clips & photos from all her best moments and that is absolutely how I want y’all to celebrate my life when it ends one day
girlies I cannot stress this enough, you are a whole and complete person without a significant other. relationships are wonderful but they’re frosting, not cake! you’re cake!!! you don’t need anyone but you to be great!!