Socially smart people often won’t tell you to your face when they disagree with you because they can sense intuitively that you are too attached to the outcome of the interaction and that you couldn’t handle disagreement. So they will just agree with you… but then you might not hear from them again.
It’s easy to assume this is “fake” when really it’s just what intelligent people do to protect their energy. If you went around saying what you really thought all of the time you’d make way too many enemies, and get in way too many unproductive arguments (cortisol spikes = aging)
Of course the only way to make genuine connections is to say what you really think… but especially if you intend to be deeply involved in society, you must train your intuition to know who can take it.
my momma always told me a real woman stands on everything she says or does. right, wrong, or indifferent. one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever gotten.
her run will be studied for generations. got the girlfriend title, most followed islander, never crashed out over a man, and ended up winning the whole thing. #loveislandusa
I honestly hate that we've normalized the idea that all opinions are valid. I think we should get back to telling people that they are ill informed & ignorant
Community died when mothers started telling people they weren’t allowed to correct children’s behaviors. Nobody wants to watch your undisciplined child that starts screaming when they are told no.