@bonduelleioat The idea is actually pretty interesting. If AI subscriptions are becoming a permanent monthly expense, getting some of that money back makes a lot of sense. The XPL risk is definitely the part to watch though
@Lummox_eth 100% agree. Better tools can make an average prompt look smart, while a bad tool can make even the best model look useless. The tool design is basically part of the intelligence
THE FASTEST WAY TO MAKE SOMEONE REGRET OPENING UP IS TO PROVE YOUVE SUFFERED MORE
they mention losing someone
u start telling them about your loss
they talk about trouble at work
u explain how much worse your job is
Celeste Headlee spent 20 years interviewing people and says it bluntly:
"its not the same
it is never the same
and more importantly, it is not about you"
your story may be relevant
that doesnt make it timely
the rule:
> share briefly
> make the connection clear
> return the conversation to them
the full article turns this into 9 rules for becoming someone people actually want to keep talking to
WHY DO SOME PEOPLE MAKE YOU WANT A SECOND CONVERSATION BEFORE THE FIRS ONE IS OVER?
Five researchers tested it across four studies in 2017.
One study used live conversations. another analyzed face-to-face speed dates.
The answer was hiding in the second question.
The paper was called "It Doesn't Hurt to Ask."
In the experimental conversations, people who asked more questions were liked slightly more.
During the speed dates, people who asked more follow-up questions were more likely to hear that the other person wanted a second date.
The researchers found another clue.
Questions produced fuller answers. fuller answers created more material to notice, understand, and follow.
The person across the table could feel whether their answer changed what happened next.
When you do not know what to say, scan their last answer for four things:
> change - started, stopped, moved, chose, lost
> emotion - excited, embarrassed, relieved, afraid
> tension but, although, except, still
> specificity a person, place, number, object, or exact moment
Pick one.
Ask the second question.
Most conversations die when an answer leaves no fingerprint on the next sentence.
The other person realizes they must invent another topic, recover the energy, and carry the conversation somewhere useful.
That is when talking to you starts feeling like work.
One of the researchers, Harvard professor Alison Wood Brooks, later gave a full hour-long lecture about the science of conversation. it is free.
The article turns the research into 9 listening rules and a conversation card you can use before your next date, meeting, or difficult talk