Mighty

Working to rebuild myself, my marriage, and my family after infidelity.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

All I know is that it seems to me everyone has been dragging their feet on cleaning this up properly from day one. It's gone on so long idk if its possible to do much about it. So now it's a waiting thing, wait n see of our wells n soil are contaminated n that's a long wait, sigh

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

I moved bought a farm just in ohio a few yrs back. Welp it's in east palestine. Most of ep is beautiful and the ppl here arent what they've been precieved as. We are out of town thankfully but still have our concerns and its stressful.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

It's hard on families and especially marriages. There's no handout given on how you should handle a situation like this. There's so much uncertainty of what the totality of repercussions are of this still, especially for those like us, outside the 1x2 miles.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@Angela87399 Ya we got that. And the kids including mine think boundaries are outta line. And everything is a big deal, that is not really a big deal. And the big deal stuff is, no big deal. Sigh... it's gaslighting n manipulative all over again!

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

It's been awhile.
Things are ok here. We are doing what we do. Married with 2 busy boys and all the crazy that comes with.
Thankful we healed our marriage bc this chapter of teenage boy has been difficult and it takes a ton of unity to navigate it.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

Still have difficulty with my back injury from a few yrs back. Yet I'm doing very well over all. The farm reno is slow moving due to time restraints but it's ok we will get there someday or not. Who cares lol
Marriage group at church is slow but helpful for them.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

Pastors that have never been uf or bs think they know what they are talking abt. Meanwhile I watch em compromising strong healthy boundaries bc they think they are untouchable with a known expert ap/uf. So expert uf she got em thinking I'm the problem 🤣Can't make it up.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@RosieBee511 I had many ap dreams. Its a working thru it I think. The last 1 Jesus held my hand walked me down a hall full of doors, opened them, each affair inside n said I was with you- not this, it can't hurt you I stand between like the doors. Dreams stopped I was stronger after.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

When you've gone thru darkness like infidelity you become something different.
Your heart changes, your feelers are amplified, you get pain in a palpable way, you get how long healing can take from any real life changing event.
You become a whole person in a beautiful way.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

When I clearly speak empathy n compassion for the harm he did to himself being uf my h gets angry with himself. He still struggles with guilt n unforgiveness within himself. So he doesn't get how I have done it. One day he will get there until then all I ask is he try is all.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@RosieBee511 It takes alot to recover n have a thriving marriage. Always starts with the uf getting gut wretchenigly real serious n strong enuf to carry the pain n transform it. Brutal yet possible. Few who do get there we find ourselves almost without community at a point ?d if we are nuts.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

Small decisions add up to where your going. So be aware to not end up where you really don't want to go.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@disenchantInCan During seasons of alot of change many of us go thru emotional fatigue. Which allows alot of thoughts, feelings, n triggers to gain control that otherwise would not. Take time for self care. If you need any help let me know in my dm. Ill hang with you!

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@LuciusHenry11 Our kids know. It was super hard. We put alot of focus on helping them thru. It allowed us to parent them better. It was perspective n the responsibility we took with them abt it. Everyone is stronger n more empathetic. Not perfect but it happened we didn't run,we taught, helped

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@PhoenixElissa Ugh he just won't stop at this crazy. Ignore ignore ignore n delete. Nonsense.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@RethinkingTrust You let go by letting the tears come. Grieving well is helpful in healing.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@MsB56757022 @elletomany Some lack the courage to allow their partner to be all that they truly are. Your worth more then making yourself smaller for someone else's comfort.

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

Confession of a betrayed. I'm difficult to live with now, things I wouldn't dare now I do. I don't withhold a thing from my h. Hes tuff enuf to handle all that I am. And hes also safe enuf for all I am too. I cant help but laugh at how much time we wasted not being this. 🤣

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@FindingTheReal2 @elletomany You'll get there!

[Mighty @lifebycourage]

@FindingTheReal2 Write a list of very questions. Give some very specific boundaries for the answers. Look at em again before requesting them. Id avoid details abt physical, feelings for the ap
It's hard to not know, it's harder knowing too much. B careful. Get someone to help you b4 n after.