I thought the whole point of identifying your attachment style is to work towards becoming secure - not declaring it and expecting everyone around you to endlessly accommodate
people don't realize how much strength it takes to pull your own self out of a dark place mentally. So, if you've done that today or ever, I'm proud of you.
dating to marry will make you realize that the "plenty of fish in the sea" narrative is false. alot of people are really not worth that level of intimacy