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An ICF accredited life coach/NLP Practitioner/CBT and Fitness Trainer striving to inspire and educate people to live their best life.

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@Theholisticpsyc What do mean “full commitment”? Marriage/co-habiting or an an agreed partnership?

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A “situationship” can feel like a threat to our nervous system.

Why non-commitment feels unsafe:

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Ozempic is the greatest medical fraud since the covid 19 jab which was the greatest fraud since statins

Fraud = deliberate deception to make money

Until we collectively tackle corporate psychopathic tyranny head on there will be no MAHA & no MAGA.

You know what to do 👊🔥

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@Theholisticpsyc Yes, I love this.

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All of your relationships will get better when you learn you don't need to react to or fix people's problems. People just want to be heard and accepted. Maturing is realizing that everyone is capable and your role is to not be anyone else's savior.

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Most people don't want the truth.

They want their beliefs reinforced.

The truth is appreciated by those who have control of their ego. Who are invested in reality even when it makes them uncomfortable.

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Some people shut down or fight back tears when they try to express how they feel. They were punished for having feelings or completely ignored. Even with safe people they’re overwhelmed. Give grace. Have patience. Allow them to adjust to being understood.

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@Theholisticpsyc Is it always childhood, or can it develop later on ?

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As a couples therapist, I noticed 7 patterns within couples who "made it."

Here They Are:

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Spot on!!

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People's behavior is the most accurate communication.

How To Stop Falling In Love With Someone's Potential:

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Unbelievably accurate! 🙌🏼

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You don’t need to take on anyone’s pain. You don’t need to immediately fix it or go into solutions. It’s a loving act to trust an adult’s ability to cope. It’s a loving act to not go into an anxiety spiral when you see someone's suffering. People don’t want to be rescued, they want to be witnessed.

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An emotionally immature partner will shut you down.

To avoid their temper or high reactivity, you don’t say anything.

You walk on eggshells betraying yourself in the process.

A relationship that silences you is a form of emotional abuse.

Choose yourself.

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Complex post traumatic stress (C-PTSD) is often misdiagnosed as ADHD, depression, bipolar, anxiety, or other mental health disorders.

C-PTSD is not yet recognized as an official diagnosis.

Symptoms include:
-hyper-vigilance
-inability to pay attention
-dissociation
-“mood swings”
-low self worth
-inability to self regulate
-history attachment issues in relationships (ex: abandonment fears)
-overall distrust
-emotional flooding and/or flashbacks
-inability to emotionally regulate

Complex post traumatic stress typical comes from long-term trauma in childhood.

Ex:
-verbally or physical abuse, shaming
-witnessing dysfunctional relationships
-chronic chaos (unpredictability)
-parents who couldn’t emotionally regulate
-bullying
-emotionally absent parents
-financial insecurity and chronic stress
-sibling abuse
-addicted parents

When children are helpless to leave an unsafe or insecure environment, the body remembers. It remains in a threat state.

There is healing for C-PTSD: somatic healing/therapy, self healing, movement (ex: dance therapy), nutritional approaches, attachment therapy, and mind body practices like yoga all can be a part of an integrative approach.

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A true apology involves:
1. An acknowledgment of pain caused
2. How behavior will change in the future
3. Listening fully to how you’ve impacted someone

Have you gotten a true apology?

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Here's what you can expect when you stop taking breadcrumbs for love and start taking your needs seriously:

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We live in a hyper specialized culture because everyone is desperate for connection.

Most people only know how to get it physically.

Few know how to create it emotionally.

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Many relationship issues are unresolved childhood issues.

Knowing this can change your relationships, forever.

How Understand Your Own Emotional Wounds: