i've shifted away from the "always put yourself first," and moved into "remember yourself always." there will be moments when situations ask you to consider more than just yourself. but you can always remember and take care of you.
one thing i learned from being sad is you just have to feel it and once youโre done, you just need to go out of the room because life is so much bigger than the room youโve been living in. trust me, it works.