It should come NATURALLY for a man to want to have fun with you, take you out, feed you, do nice things for you, and compliment you.
You should never have to teach someone to do that.
As a woman I am extremely aware that the reason I have my rights is because a woman somewhere got up, got MOUTHY, organised, raged, made herself INCREDIBLY inconvenient until things changed for the better for all of us. Which is precisely why I see women who uphold the patriarchy as traitors to all women.
"What radicalized you?"
Watching my female relatives plan, cook, shop, decorate, clean, and organize for the holidays while the men just show up and watch TV the whole time.
Out of ten men, one makes a sexual joke at a woman, two laugh, three fake a chuckle to fit in, and four stay silent. None of them speak up. Later, nine of them still believe they're the "good guys." But from the woman's perspective, the laughter, the silence, the looking away, it all creates the same environment. So when women say"most men are the same," this is what they mean: not that every man harasses women, but that most men help protect the system that does.
I just saw a TikTok where the bride called off the wedding because there was a tradition that the bride and groom would give each other something meaningful or thoughtful. The bride was gifted a PS5 and a family watch that her father used to wear, and yall won’t believe me what the groom gifted. He literally gifted her with “cleaning supplies” & “diapers”…& then he intentionally spilled alcohol on his color and asked her to clean it. She slapped him & said,“ This isn't how I dreamed to be loved for the rest of my life” & left…… Dear men, if you want to get married, stop humiliating your woman, everything isn’t funny!
being religious doesn’t mean you’re a good person. faith without kindness is just performance. beliefs don’t matter if they’re not reflected in empathy, accountability, and how you treat people when no one’s watching. character shows up in actions, not in labels or rituals