maturing is realising that there comes a moment where you decide “this is the last time these people are going to make me feel this way,” and you actually mean it. whether it’s family, a relationship, or a friendship.
I realize more and more that I do not dress up enough, I do not go out enough, and I do not take pictures enough! That’s going to be one of my biggest goals for next year.
You might think people only need to heal from bad relationships. but the truth is people are healing from hateful parents, betrayal from friends, sibling feuds, academic problems, stressed in their works. always remind that not everything is about romantic relationships.
if u offer me a sincere apology & change ur behavior, I'll never bring up our past issues again. But if no apology was given and ur still repeating mistakes, u can't ask me to stop mentioning the past. The "past" is actually the present if u haven't changed.
men don't realize that their superpower is safety. The things women will do for men they feel mentally, emotionally and physically safe with you is amazing.
self-sabotage is also:
- not asking for help
- rejecting praise
- isolating yourself when hurt
- saying “yes” to everything
- putting your needs on hold
- procrastinating on important tasks
- watching too much news
- trying to be perfect
Even in friendships mind your business. If they don’t tell you, they probably don’t want you to know, or just not yet. You are not entitled to knowing what’s going on at every point in your friend’s life.
Y’all feel a way when ppl isolate themselves, so they can process what they have going on and at the same time, you won’t give them the space to be vulnerable, when they’re around you. You basically expect them to show up, the way you see fit. It doesn’t work like that.
Ngl some of you are walking love letters, and you don't even realise it. You light up rooms, shift atmospheres, and inspire people just by being you. It's really a very precious gift.
I don’t let anybody play with my character. I know my heart. I look out for people without keeping count, and I move with real intentions every time. That’s why I don’t lose sleep when people switch up or act brand new. I know how I show up. Always been genuine, loyal & real.
Ruth walked into a season of harvest immediately after having a season of grief. God has seen your affliction this year, and now this is the season of harvest. A season that transforms the trajectory of your life. Things are going to shift for the better from this point on.
We can't date casually. We can't casually have sex. There's nothing casual about being in my space. I'm a real lover.
There is nothing casual about my intimacy. There is nothing casual about my heart.