Please pray about everything ! Your mood swings, your temper, your ego, your insecurities, your mindset, your self love, your emotional state, your environment, your relationships, your lack of motivation, your lack of execution, your attraction to bad ppl ! PRAY ABOUT IT ALL !
Effort:
Text me when you say you will. Remember my favorite snacks. Ask about my day. Show up for me. Check in on me even when I'm not expecting it. Remember the little details about me. I notice effort - I always do. It's the small things that remind me I'm loved, truly loved.
I think social media has slowly changed what we call "love language." Everywhere you look, it tells you "If he does this, he's yours", "If he doesn't, he's not the one."
But how can everyone love the same way? What if his way of loving is making sure you never sleep on an empty stomach? What if he remembers the little things like how much you hate waiting and shows up 10 minutes early every time? What if he doesn't believe in texting you every 5 minutes in between a hectic day but chooses to give you his undivided hours once he's free?
What if when it comes to his friends he still shows up for them? The same friends who stood by him through every messy phase, every low, every fight he couldn't win alone. How can you expect to become his entire world in just a year, when they've been part of his life for so much longer?
And the concept of texting is still there. Yes, it takes seconds to send a message... but love is not measured in seconds. Sometimes, it's in the way someone thinks about you even when they're not saying it out loud.
Maybe love was never meant to look the same for everyone. Maybe we just forgot how to see it in different forms.
I used to think it was important to have common interests with the person that you are in a relationship with but now I think it is more important to be similar in other aspects. like how kind you are. how you treat the people you care about, how you treat strangers. how you deal with anger. how you deal with pain. and not necessarily dealing with all these things the same way but being perceptive enough to understand what action each situation calls for. it's important for both people to be on the same page about what that action should be. it's important to me to have that kind of synchrony.
Acts of service is the most valuable love language to me bc i love when ppl do things 4 me that make my life easier. It also takes a lot of thoughtfulness & observation to properly execute. You can literally tell how much someone loves you when their actions consistently show it.
Having a man who chooses you daily, a man that makes time to talk to you no matter how busy his day gets, a man who craves your presence, values your friendship, respects your advice, and genuinely enjoys your company, a man who provides, protects & loves you with intention. Yes that's the man for me 🥹🥹
Feeding someone is such a pure love language. Yes, I peeled and cut these fruits for you. Yes, I remembered to order you lunch while I was at work. Yes, I spent forty minutes cooking you a meal because I know how you love home cooked meals but hate cooking. Here's a cup of coffee.
Of course I remember how you like your sandwich. For you. For you. For you.
SIGNS SHE IS LOYAL TO YOU
>She supports you in everything you do.
>Her phone is an open book.
>She’s never cheated before.
>She’s there for you when times are tough.
>She’s ready to build and grow a family with you.
>She has motherly instincts and kindness.
>She loves that thing you do every day.
>She often talks about your future together.
>Your relationship is a priority to her.
>She celebrates your wins like her own.
>She defends you when others criticize.
>She’s honest even when it’s uncomfortable.
>Her friends all tell you she loves you.
>You’ve built up a healthy trust.
>You’re a part of her inner circle.
>She remembers the little things that matter to you.
I hope you forgive yourself for all the ways you abandoned your truth just to feel wanted. For all the times you said ‘I'm fine’ when you weren't, just to keep the peace. You don't owe anyone your silence. You don't have to earn your place here. You have always been enough.
i truly wanna be a WIFE BUT i wanna be a genuinely happy wife. A submissive wife. A loving wife. A peaceful wife. A secure wife. A comfortable and safe wife to a honorable, ambitious, hardworking, LOYAL, loving, romantic, funny, spontaneous God fearing husband
Girl, there’s a man out there who genuinely likes you. He’ll make time for you, communicate consistently, cheer for your success, care about your happiness and appreciate everything that makes you you. Stop wasting your energy on people you have to force to do those things. Go live your life.
Everybody wants to be in a relationship for years but everybody is not ready for the the bad days, the crying, arguments, communication going wrong. Relationships aren’t fairytales & it’s not easy. If you love each other, you have to stay solid through it all and make it work.
a relationship without mind games is so sweet. Nobody is waiting for who will call first. Nobody waits for the other person to say I LOVE YOU & I MISS YOU first. Nobody is scared to be vulnerable. Just two people who are naked and unashamed, loving without restriction. Beautiful!
Please date emotionally intelligent people . it's nice to have someone who's aware of your sensitivity & learns to handle your feelings gently, with patience and care. it is comforting to show your vulnerability to someone & have them learn how to respond to it with understanding >>