These citations are a total predatory scam via a third party company to the point where my state changed the law about them in July. They just want people to pay the $100 by making it difficult and annoying to dispute it.
It felt like lying by omission and the news broke me despite how supportive I tried to be. Talking to him became too painful so I cut ties entirely. It's been about six months, but he occasionally creeps back up in my mind. I think it might just be limerence.