Some people party so much in the gay scene that, over time, they lose their sense of reality. They unknowingly start believing that the rules of the subculture are the rules of the real world, placing way too much weight on party dynamics, social status, and external validation.
I wish more gay men would read Nietzsche because his whole message is about bucking convention and, through embracing the will to power, becoming an extraordinary man.Β
Gay men are in a unique position to become the Ubermensch.
They tend to be innovative, have fewer familial obligations, and live in strong communal urban environments surrounded by other competitive testosterone filled men.Β
Nietzsche's message goes much deeper than equality and self esteem.
He tells us "You have untapped potential. Will you harness it and become something, or waste it?"
You are a statue hidden beneath a block of marble. The task is not merely to accept yourself, but to create yourself. You can take up the chisel and turn your life into a work of art, into something beautiful.
Or leave the stone untouched and never become what you might have been.
The obsession with wanting people to regret losing you is insane. Youβre not that special. People lose people every day and keep living. Heal from the ego that needs to be missed, chased, or mourned to feel valuable. Your job is not to become somebodyβs punishment. Your job is to grow, move on, and build a life so full that their regret is no longer your concern.