learn to be ok with people not knowing your side of the story. you have nothing to prove, nothing to defend. besides, most people can only meet you in the level of depth they have with themselves. not everyone deserves your time.
never let someone make you feel bad for being able to communicate clearly, vulnerably, directly and with consideration. the people who take issue in this way usually haven’t developed their own communication skills. they also likely refuse to hold space for others, yet expect that level of emotional grace in return
one of my favorite things in the world is how we pick up little habits, phrases, and mannerisms from the people we love. i still say that one phrase my friend used to say a few years ago. i cook something the way my cousin taught or showed me. i discovered some of my favorite songs from someone i don't even talk to anymore. you collect so many pieces as you go about life. you are a mosaic of everyone you've ever loved, even for a heartbeat.
Note to self : it takes a very strong individual to sit with themselves, calm their storms, & heal all of their issues without trying to bring someone else into their chaos. Your journey into self-love is just that, & you are doing it. Keep going.