I’ve always found it so much hotter to ask for pain than to brat and get punished. It’s a very personal preference for sure because fundamentally I have no issue with bratting. For me there’s something about the look a Sadist gets when I look at them with needy eyes and beg
I fell in love with this realization:
The people meant for you will not punish you for being human. They will not require perfect timing, perfect words, or a flawless version of your personality. They will know how to hold a pause without turning it into a threat.
They will know that being real matters more than being polished.