There’s 6 stages to letting go, but most ppl get stuck at 1. Where the mind refuses to update its reality. You know you should move on, you tell yourself you have to, but no matter what you do, it’s like your heart didn’t get the memo.
I got custody of my little sister when she was 13. She’s 23 now. Yesterday she texted me,
“Check your bank. And don’t argue.” 😭
I opened it… and she sent money for groceries. Said, “Buy something nice too. Not just bills.” Ever since she started working, she randomly sends rice deliveries to the house, pays the internet before I even notice it’s due, shows up with takeout on nights she knows I’m tired. I never ask. I don’t expect it. She just does it.
Last week I saw her fixing the electric fan for our younger cousins, teaching them how to budget their allowance, moving through life like someone who learned responsibility early.
And she did. Because we grew up together. Two kids pretending to be strong. Two kids figuring it out without a manual.
So let me applaud us quietly. I was a teenager playing parent. She was a child forced to grow up fast. But somehow… we didn’t break. We built something. And we made it.
For the first time in history, women are no longer marrying men for financial security or material things, just on the basis of their character - and the men are failing miserably.
this is the first time a woman has ever been president. the first time a woman rung the bell. she had ALL women standing behind her. this powerful. this is history.
My man called me and asked what I was doing. I said the grocery store. He asked which one… I told him. We’re chatting as I’m shopping. I go to checkout he surprises me at the front of the store dancing with my fav smoothie & snacks & loads my groceries.
$10 & i was HAPPY! 😂
I have changed my perspective
Yesterday, I met this white woman who adopted this black child and she was struggling color matching her daughter.
For reference her daughter was on the darker end of spectrum so I came up to her “do you need any help”… and she responded,
empathy burnout is real. after all these years of understanding the people around you, trying to put yourself on their situation, putting others first before you, and now you're drained and have became indifferent.