Alba

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البا

[Alba @llstos_]

We built this town on a shaky ground

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

No todo necesita una explicación completa para poder seguir adelante. A veces entender menos y aceptar más es precisamente lo que permite avanzar.

[positivity moon @arrtnem]

You hit this realization in the most unglamorous moments.

Not at some dramatic breakup, not at a funeral, not in a movie scene where rain is perfectly timed. It happens when you are sick on a Tuesday and still have to answer three emails. When you are carrying groceries up the stairs and your arms start shaking and you think, for half a second, wow, if I dropped dead right here, these bags would still be heavy. The world would still be loud. The neighbor’s TV would still be on. Someone would still be double parked outside.

Adulthood is learning that your pain does not pause anything.

You can be falling apart inside and the calendar will not soften. The rent does not care. The job does not care. Your group chat does not care in the way you secretly want it to, which is that deep, attentive, “I can tell something is wrong, sit down, I’m here” care. People will care in the way they are able to. A heart reaction. “Omg are you okay?” A “let me know if you need anything.” Then they go back to their own life because they have their own stove left on, their own bills, their own private panic.

And that is the part that lands like betrayal.

When you are younger you have this hidden belief that there is a net. Teachers. Parents. Coaches. Someone with authority watching the field. Even if they do not understand you, you feel like your existence is registered. You can disappear for a day and somebody will ask where you were. You can show up quiet and someone will poke you and say “what’s wrong.”

Then you become an adult and you realize you can be visibly miserable for months and people will just assume you are busy.

It is not even cruelty. It is bandwidth. Everyone is running their own life like a leaking boat. They can throw you a towel. They cannot climb into your water with you. So you end up standing there holding your own bucket, bailing and bailing, and the ocean does not care that you are tired.

The show must go on is not a motivational phrase. It is a threat.

It means you are expected to be functional even when you are not okay. It means the version of you who is “responsible” gets rewarded, while the version of you who is honest gets quietly punished. It means you learn to smile in meetings while your chest feels like wet cement. It means you crack jokes at dinner while you are thinking about how lonely you feel. It means you become so good at acting normal that people stop imagining you could be struggling.

Then they say “I had no idea” when you finally break.

The most adult thing is realizing that people’s love is often passive. They love you, but they will not notice you slipping unless you make noise. They will miss you, but they will not chase you. They will assume you are fine because you have always looked fine. They do not check the corners of your eyes to see if you have been sleeping. They do not read your tone like they used to when you were teenagers and everything was shared and dramatic and intense.

Your sadness becomes invisible because you learn to hide it.

And once you realize no one is coming to save you, a different kind of grief shows up.

You start mourning the fantasy that someone will burst into your life at the exact moment you need them and say “I can tell. I’ve got you.” Sometimes that happens. Usually it does not. Usually you have to be the one who texts first. You have to be the one who says “I’m not okay.” You have to be the one who makes the appointment, fills the prescription, changes the habit, sets the boundary, leaves the relationship, stops the spiral.

Not because you are strong.

Because you are the only person who is there for every single second of your life.

There is a harsh freedom in that.

You stop waiting for permission. You stop hoping someone will read your mind. You stop building your life around being noticed. You learn to do things for yourself in a quiet way. You eat something real. You go for a walk even when you do not want to.

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

Creemos que gestionar bien una adversidad es no sentir miedo o ansiedad. Pero esas emociones desagradables son de la situación, no de que lo gestiones mal. Gestionar bien es hacer lo que toca aun con el malestar, dándole un lugar sin dejar que te bloquee.

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

No te reconstruyes aislándote. Te reconstruyes acercándote, compartiendo y atravesando tus heridas. La vida no se repara en solitario, se repara en el vínculo. No hace falta estar en tu mejor momento para crear vínculos. Conectarnos es humano incluso en las etapas difíciles.

[Noa Gresiva @NoaGresiva]

Esta es posiblemente la mejor intervención de @gabrielrufian de los últimos tiempos.

No caben más verdades. Vaya 6 minuos y 43 segundos. Impresionantes.

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

No todo lo que te duele es culpa de tu infancia. A veces lo que necesitas es hacerte cargo de tu presente. Revisar tu historia ayuda, pero la vida adulta también necesita atención. Mirar atrás puede ser una gran trampa. Lo que toca es hacerse cargo del adulto que eres hoy.

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

Autocuidado también es priorizar a las personas que te importan cuando hay que hacerlo. Cuidar a quien te importa es cuidarte a ti.

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

Haber sufrido no te da permiso para hacer sufrir. El daño que te hicieron no justifica el daño que causas. Todos cargamos con algo, pero eso no te autoriza a convertir tu dolor en arma. No compres ese discurso: sufrir no es excusa para herir.

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

A veces no es que no sepas qué hacer, es que no te das permiso para hacerlo. La claridad no siempre llega antes de la acción. A veces, es la acción la que trae la claridad.

[𝑷𝒖𝒏𝒌 𝒚 𝒄𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒊 @punk_y_cursi]

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[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

Muchas veces creemos que lo que necesitamos trabajar es la autoestima, cuando lo que realmente falla y nos falta es la necesidad de conexión, de pertenecer, de ser sabernos parte de algo, de sentirnos acompañados y recibir apoyo.

[albaricoque 🌸 @albavaazquez]

ver a la gente llevando ramos de flores por la calle para dárselo a sus parejas, escoger un libro para esa persona especial... el amor es algo tan bonito

[María Martín Ψ @psimariamartin]

Asumir los errores, pedir perdón y cambiar a partir de lo aprendido son conductas necesarias para formar un vínculo sólido. Y no cualquiera está dispuesto a sostener el malestar que implica esto. Sin empatía y autocrítica no construyen contigo, te rompen

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

Cuando se ha analizado a fondo la decisión correcta, hay que tomar la decisión de no dudar y asumirla con convicción. Las dudas siempre aparecerán, no puedo impedir que aparezcan, pero sí puedo decidir no ponerme a dialogar con ellas.

[angel @izra2k]

Nunca jamás, ni por descuido o por venganza, se tocan las heridas de los demás. Las vulnerabilidades siempre se respetan y nunca se aprovechan porque somos lo que hacemos con la confianza que nos dan.

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

Las decepciones duelen, pero ese dolor enseña a no volver a esperar más de la cuenta.

[flor @palanttt]

imagínate hablar mal de mi y que yo este planificando mi vision board 2025 en pinterest

[Mª Jesús Giménez @mjcaimari]

El verbo merecer nos confunde: nos hace esperar en lugar de actuar. La vida no es cuestión de merecer, sino de buscar y hacer. Lo que merecemos se construye.